What’s the different between companion and commitment of relation? Does anyone know? Which one do you prefer? Is it people like to have companion during a single life? Well it’s an interesting topic to talk about.
I’ve found out some people prefer companion. Why? It’s really weird for those people who prefer like this kind of life. Maybe they like to have more freedom without any commitment such as no arguing, no complaining, no worries, no need to responsible and etc. But how long would they have this kind of life? Until they are satisfy to get a PERFECT life of partner? Hmm… but how long does it takes? If during a youth moment, people still can enjoy. But what about during certain age like after 30 years old? Does it worth to be for the rest of life? Hmm… nobody could give a correct answer cos there is always no answer in our life. Maybe some people are prefer to be single for life. But why?
As what I've known, most of guys wouldn't want to have commitment of relation. They said " I haven’t found a perfect woman until she suits my conditions…". " I have girl friend but I don't think she is the perfect one for me as both of us got something problem and we are still trying to fix it. Perhaps we could give a chance to try first. If we are match, I shall dump her...". When I heard about this issue, I felt disappointed and terrible. What is PERFECT woman? Do you think woman don’t have conditions made to choose a perfect man? Come on, this is such a wasting time! Whatever they said was excused and they are just like a kid, playing a non-stop of merry-go-round, round and round for fun forever until another person comes out to press stop button to end it. But when will be that person to show up to end it? Unfortunately, nobody knows.
This is what human’s life goes on. Every shopping mall and each shops have different kind of choices to make but no one would know what’s the best. So they have to search one by one. First, they have found was good quality and useful but they have to move on for second choice cos they thought maybe next one would be better than this. After that, they have found better than first one but they thought again, maybe third choice will much better than this. Then they moved on to the third choice and found out that, damn! This is the best! Unfortunately it already been taken by someone. End up they have to keep going to search until they wish to get the best of the best as long as better than previous. As the best thing has been taken already, limited time has left, they would just simply to choose whatever it is. They wouldn't want to turn back again as they knew it was too late and even embarrassed to ask. Sounds pity huh!
This lesson taught us when the chance and fate has come, try to grasp it first as it is only comes once. Nothing is perfect cos everyone has their own habit. I believe people can do unexpected best thing or surprise for someone they love most. Who knows! Full of surprises can touch a person of life and naturally will change to much better of relationship. Gee… so powerful huh! Love is miracle, right? However, self efficiency and be brave to accept people’s habit and character. Love without respect, responsible, share, tolerate and trust, it’s hard to have a happiness and balance of life. Don’t you think so?
People change. Sometimes for the better and sometimes for worst. The same applies in a relationship. The person you chose as your wife (for man) or husband (for woman) is not the same person you chose to marry as you journey together in marital life. There is an element of surprise in all relationships. We can only do our part by always changing for the better and not for the worst. We hope that by this example that our life partner can draw inspiration from our positive change to work towards changing positively in their personal lives as well so that both are in union for many years to come and are a source of happiness to one another.
ReplyDeleteYep! I agreed. No matter how people change, couple should do it together when other side change for better. But the worst scenario is he/she realise that he/she isn't want to do and yet try to do it. They aren't willingly to do but trying to accept. End up they lie themselves which they thought they are really change for better. Sad story has begun and they start to argue then blame other side.
DeleteBefore start a relationship, understand yourself before understand him/her. Find out whether have a same hobby, same point of view, same taste and same heart to move on or not. Some people prefer to choose him/her as their target for Mr/Mrs.perfect. People is looking for condition, a man/woman wish that he/she is pretty, handsome, rich, adorable, humorous, bright future and etc but they never thought wisdom, experience and confidence are the most precious and powerful character can be influenced a person to change for the best. That's what I've experienced with someone I loved before. Since I'm single until now, I've been learned how can I confront with different kind of single or married person. Besides I'm really appreciate that they shared their relationship of life to me as I keep it for research then develop into myself to feel what is wrong of these people. Perhaps you will feel curious how am I gonna to develop into myself to feel it. Well to be honest, I did fall in love someone who is married but I know it's over boundary. I feel guilty for that woman who has trying hard to fulfill her husband for happiness but he found out that his wife isn't willingly to change although she said she did.
Between companion and commitment, both are important. Both is the key to move forward not only for relationship, also for married. I hope those people could understand other side of thoughts and share it out. Don't just keep inside the heart and talk to yourself "I can do it better and he/she will know it soon", this is so wrong.
I hope you do find that person that will allow that wisdom, calm confidence and experience with couple relationships shine out from you to be of value to your partner's life and yours. May clear communication lines be exhibited in the relationship and that the communication is flowing in both paths to allow the betterment of the relationship. By the way did the married person and his wife manage to find a solution to their communication barrier and renew and shape their shared goals as a couple for a brighter future?
ReplyDeleteStill in progress and he was hardly to choose what he wants. To problem was like this, he and his wife has been together already 20 years and got 10 years old daughter. As his wife is unable to follow his step which he moved on since few years ago. What he can do is tolerance with her and be a responsible man and also be a good father in the family to take care both of them. Unfortunately he found out this is not the way to change better after he met me as he knows between love and responsible is totally different. He lost his love towards her. He wanted to find back the love where they had been together for so long.
DeleteUntil today he is still thinking deeply and deeply either he should move along with her or end the marriage life with her. The problem is he has a daughter and he can't just leave it behind without responsible. So I've found out the lesson about between love and responsible is a couple without love but wanted to bare as responsible for something, that's really stress and suffer. As a couple have been loved each other before but lost faith after 10 or 20 years, that's really sad and pathetic.
Sigh~ Love is really blind and unexplainable. (==)